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Rebuke of Ungodly Yokes, Avoiding Ungodly Relationships, Purity in Singleness, & Preparing for Marriage

Study notes below:

The Israelite’s are seduced into sin by woman(the daughters of Moab)!

Num 25:1  And Israel abode in Shittim, and the people began to commit whoredom with the daughters of Moab.
Num 25:2  And they called the people unto the sacrifices of their gods: and the people did eat, and bowed down to their gods.
Num 25:3  And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of the LORD was kindled against Israel.It was the plan of the evil one then as it is now! (Balaam was behind it)!Num 31:15  And Moses said unto them, Have ye saved all the women alive?
Num 31:16  Behold, these caused the children of Israel, through the counsel of Balaam, to commit trespass against the LORD in the matter of Peor, and there was a plague among the congregation of the LORD.

A Christian is NEVER to yoke with a non-Christian:

Deu 7:1  When the LORD thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou;
Deu 7:2  And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor shew mercy unto them:
Deu 7:3  Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.
Deu 7:4  For they WILL turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and DESTROY thee suddenly.

The Christian believer will most ALWAYS get swayed and become shipwreck from the faith by the unbeliever!

2Co 6:14  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2Co 6:15  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
2Co 6:16  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
2Co 6:17  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
2Co 6:18  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

This is a message for people that were married as unbelievers and one comes to Jesus after…

1Co 7:12  But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
1Co 7:13  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
1Co 7:15  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1Co 7:16  For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

This is a clear command… You are FORBIDDEN to even THINK of marrying (or otherwise yoking for that matter) with someone that is not TRULY in the FAITH! That is sin. Sold out for Jesus.

Amos 3:3  Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Solomon did NOT listen to God’s instructions regarding marrying just believers! He started his sin by taking the daughter of Pharaoh and that made his lust so much worse!

1Ki 11:1  But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites;
1Ki 11:2  Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love.
1Ki 11:3  And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.
1Ki 11:4  For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.
1Ki 11:5  For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Zidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites.
1Ki 11:6  And Solomon did evil in the sight of the LORD, and went not fully after the LORD, as did David his father.
1Ki 11:7  Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, in the hill that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon.
1Ki 11:8  And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods.
1Ki 11:9  And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel, which had appeared unto him twice,
1Ki 11:10  And had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods: but he kept not that which the LORD commanded.

Men and woman need to be shamefaced and alert. You want to constantly guard your eyes and heart.

Pro_6:25  Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.

You don’t want to be rude with anyone BUT you don’t want to yoke with or condone any sinner. You also dont’ want to talk to people about things about things that are too personal and serious when courting a Christian. You need to let them know you are off limits to the unbelievers!

1Th_5:22  Abstain from ALL appearance of evil.

Much prayer is commanded especially regarding marriage. You are more likely to get in trouble if you give someone the appearance you are “available” when you are not. You may need to walk away a thousand times but trust GOD. Don’t overestimate YOUR spirituality and think you will “win” the spouse after marriage!!

Never evangelize one-on-one if someone has attraction to you even in hopes they turn to Christ It will not work. Send them to someone other than you and let them evangelize to them.

You are not to be alone with a woman whether you are are married or not! Don’t be tempted!

Pro 31:30  Favour (CHARM) is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

You want to look for the fear of God in a spouse, not outward beauty. The devil is an imposter and can fake the Holy Spirit ESPECIALLY in choosing a marriage partner. Do not go by feelings. Be led by the Lord. You can easily mistake “good feelings” when they are not right. Let’s say there were a bunch of young men in a church and a new family moves in that are Christian. The 20 men see her and the all think “she is the one for me”. Let’s say a year later that one of the men marry her and says “I knew you were the one for me the minute I saw you”. Well, we know ALL 20 men would have said that if they ended up marrying her. Beware of feelings… If there is someone that you believe is TRULY a marriage partner and you are ready for marriage, you need to go through the authority of your local church, your parents, etc and beware of those who do not honor these clear biblical boundaries. Also those who disobey the command not to TOUCH before marriage. Careful boundaries are biblical. They should never be alone as to bring unnecessary temptation. They are not married yet! If one does not agree with these boundaries, end the relationship pronto!!

1Co 7:1  Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
1Co 7:2  Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

There is going to be calamity in the last days. God may know that great clamity may be coming upon you so BE PATIENT! Being single may be the optimal thing. It may make like for you so very hard. God knows things we don’t.

Luk 21:23  But woe unto them that are with child, and to them that give suck, in those days! for there shall be great distress in the land, and wrath upon this people.

TRUST!

Pro_2:7  He layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous: he is a buckler to them that walk uprightly.

You want to “DO IT YOUR WAY??

Ecc 11:9  Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment.

REPENT!

Ecc 11:10  Therefore remove sorrow from thy heart, and put away evil from thy flesh: for childhood and youth are vanity.

You must stay pure:

1Co 6:20  For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

Dont’ be deceived that you will receive the promise. You must endure….

Heb 10:35  Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward.
Heb 10:36  For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
Heb 10:37  For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry.
Heb 10:38  Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him.
Heb 10:39  But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.

Easu was not a fornicator and lost his birthright for some food!!!
Heb 12:15  Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
Heb 12:16  Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.
Heb 12:17  For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears.